7 LEADERSHIP LESSONS I LEARNED FROM MOM

I rolled my eyes the first time I heard my mom say, “One day you’ll understand.” It wasn’t the first time I heard her say those words, nor the only time I rolled my eyes when I heard them.

What did she know.  I knew everything, and she knew nothing. Well, as you can imagine, I’ve been eating crow for quite some time. As it turns out, Mom always does know best. I can now admit that some of the best leadership advice I’ve learned came first from my mom.

In honor of Mother’s Day, I thought it would be great to give credit where credit is due and share seven leadership lessons I learned from my momma.

ONE STORY CAN CHANGE EVERYTHING

I’m not a man and will never be able to fully understand their deepest fears and motivations, but Sam, my husband, tells me that a man’s ego is like a fragile egg in the hands of his wife, regardless of how strong he appears to be. He also tells me that when she believes in him, he’ll walk to the ends of the earth for her and his family.

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I learned these lessons gradually. A year into our marriage I discovered he was battling a pornography addiction. By year two, I had grown convinced that he would never be the man I could ever respect again.

Yet, I didn’t want to be the quitter. Instead I pushed his buttons, using my words as lethal weapons that began to destroy his confidence. Sooner or later he would get tired of the abuse and walk away. I’d be able to say that he was the quitter.

I began to understand the second lesson shortly after a long road trip. I can’t remember how we began talking about coming of age stories, but the following story forever changed how I felt about him and the future of our marriage… [continue reading original article at The Good Men Project]

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“One Story Every Man Must Learn and Be Willing To Share” was First published at The Good Men Project (June 25, 2015)

27 HABITS TO HELP YOUR MARRIAGE LAST 27 YEARS AND BEYOND

I recently came across “20 Common Sense Tips to Help Your Marriage Last 20 Years,” an article Tor Constantino wrote to commemorate his upcoming 20th wedding anniversary. In just a few days, my hubby, Sam, and I will be celebrating our 27th wedding anniversary, so I decided to borrow a page from Tor’s playbook.

First, a little bit of context.

“It’s been like a day… in Vietnam!” I used to joked around (sort of) when folks commented on how great it’s to see a couple make it this long. Those who’ve known us from the beginning get the joke immediately.

They saw the bad and the ugly years. When I was a bottomless pit of need and insecurity. Sam a raging bull, fighting his demons and addictions. They witnessed my childish antics that exacerbated Sam’s OCD, like the time he wanted to wring my neck when he got home to find his entire closet on our front lawn (a long story I’ll save for another time).